In this Nov. 22, 2016 photo refugees take part in a flirt workshop called 'how to fall in love in Germany" in Dortmund, Germany. Teacher Horst Wenzel, left, who usually teaches German men how to approach women, volunteers his skills to help with integrating some of the more than 1 million refugees who have arrived over the past two years in Germany. (AP Photo/Michael Probst)
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DORTMUND, Germany (AP) - Horst Wenzel, dubbed Germany's "Mr. Flirt," has been volunteering his services to teach young Muslim men who grew up in vastly different cultures how to approach women in Germany. Normally, Wenzel's students are wealthy but shy German men, but after the arrival of hundreds of thousands of asylum seekers in Germany - most of them young single men - he decided to offer his advice to migrants as well.
Here's some of his advice:
-THE APPROACH: If you see a woman you like, don't ask her if you can talk to her; just do it.
-FOCUS YOUR QUESTIONS: If you fire non-stop questions at her, she'll run away. Come up with something that makes her talk about herself.
-TAKE THE INITIATIVE: Even Germany's emancipated women often like the man to take the initiative. Surprise her with unique pick-up lines; suggest original dates.
-UNUSUAL COMPLIMENTS: Don't tell her she has pretty eyes; she's heard that a million times. Come up with something more unique: "I love the scent of your perfume," or "your voice is very beautiful."
-UNIQUE DATES: Don't ask her out for coffee; make it the theater, a concert, rock climbing. Or plan something in the future to show you're really interested: Invite her on a trip to Amsterdam or Paris.
-BODY CONTACT: Take her hand (not necessarily on the first date!) and see how she reacts. If she stiffens up, that's a bad sign. If she responds with tenderness, you're on the right track.
-SEX AND LOVE: It's OK to have sex on the first, second or third date; sex is no big deal in Germany. But don't tell her you love her for at least three months. German women can't stand clinginess.
In this Nov. 22, 2016 photo workshop coach Horst Wenzel writes something on a board during a flirt workshop for refugees in Dortmund, Germany. Wenzel, 27, makes his living teaching wealthy but uptight German men how to approach women. But this year, he decided to also volunteer his skills to help Germany as it struggles to integrate more than 1 million refugees who have arrived over the past two years, most of them from war-torn Muslim countries with vastly different relations between the sexes. (AP Photo/Michael Probst)
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In this Nov. 22, 2016 photo refugees take part in a flirt workshop in Dortmund, Germany. Horst Wenzel, who usually teaches German men how to approach women, volunteers his skills to help with integrating some of the more than 1 million refugees who have arrived over the past two years in Germany. (AP Photo/Michael Probst)
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In this Nov. 22, 2016 photo Essam Kadib al Ban, second from left, takes part in a flirt workshop for refugees in Dortmund, Germany. Horst Wenzel, who usually teaches German men how to approach women, volunteers his skills to help with integrating some of the more than 1 million refugees who have arrived over the past two years in Germany. (AP Photo/Michael Probst)
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In this Nov. 22, 2016 photo a refugee has written down his goals for the next year - starting with learning German and ending with studying at a university - as he takes part in a flirt workshop in Dortmund, Germany. Horst Wenzel, who usually teaches German men how to approach women, volunteers his skills to help with integrating some of the more than 1 million refugees who have arrived over the past two years in Germany. (AP Photo/Michael Probst)
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In this Nov. 22, 2016 photo refugees take part in a flirt workshop called 'how to fall in love in Germany" in Dortmund, Germany. Horst Wenzel, who usually teaches German men how to approach women, volunteers his skills to help with integrating some of the more than 1 million refugees who have arrived over the past two years in Germany. (AP Photo/Michael Probst)
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